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R & R

Posted: April 17, 2014 in Busyness, Miscellaneous, Rest, Thoughts
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Photo Credit: kevin dooley via Compfight cc

I have to be honest. I don’t really feel like writing today. This is one of those lazy days I have sometimes where I just want to relax and do… well, nothing. I want to sit and relax and enjoy the morning. When this happens, sometimes I feel like I am somehow letting someone down. I feel like maybe there is something wrong with that – like I should force myself to do whatever it is I don’t feel like doing. You know, like writing when I don’t feel like it.

And sometimes, that’s true. Sometimes I just need to do it, even if I don’t feel like it. Like, right now, I’m sitting here writing because I know that if I don’t, I will make it easier for myself to put it aside next time. To me, making myself write is worth forcing myself to do so because this is something I want to make a bigger part of my life at some point. But is it OK for me to skip it sometimes?

That is the question of the hour, right? Well, at least it is for me. In all honesty, I actually think it’s OK to skip out on good things sometimes. If you’re anything like me, you’re going all the time. On any given day, I have work, school activities for my kids, kids (always), family, friends, church, and a whole slew of other things. Often, I don’t get a chance to stop and breathe, and I think that’s bad for me. I think that at times I need to stop and just “be”. I need to let the cares of this world fall aside and just rest and relax.

Now that I’ve admitted that, I have to admit, I don’t do this as often as I should. I often keep going and doing all those things out of a sense of duty. And it’s OK to do those things. There’s nothing wrong with doing those things. But when they take over my entire life and leave me with no chance to stop, they are no longer “good” things. They become a ball and chain that I must somehow escape from.

So, while I did take the time to write some today, I’m going to stop here, and go enjoy the rest of my morning before I have to leave for work. I wish each and every one of my readers a very blessed Easter and I will be back next week!

Your turn! What do you think about this? How do you find time for margin in your life?

~Until Next Time,

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I can think of a lot of words that could be defined as “dirty”.  But none of them strike me as more “dirty” than the word “procrastination”.  Whenever I hear that word, I cringe.  Perhaps the reason I dislike this word so much is because of the negative connotations it has.  After all, who wants to be categorized as a procrastinator?  Or perhaps the reason this word is so “dirty” to me is because I often find myself falling victim to procrastination.  Whatever the reason, procrastination is a dirty word in my mind.

I have good intentions, I really do.  But what’s that saying again?  Oh, right – “the road to hell is paved with good intentions.”  Though I am not certain who actually coined that phrase, it truly fits.  I can have all the good intentions I want, but if I don’t take action, then what good are my good intentions?

I often find myself saying, “I’m going to start that workout plan next week.  I just need time to plan it out, so I don’t quit.”  The problem is that I put it off.  Next week comes, and I am no closer to making my plan or starting my program.  I say, “I’m going to write for at least 15 minutes every night, starting tomorrow.”   Again, tomorrow comes, and I don’t start.  I make excuses like, “I’m too tired” or “I just don’t have time right now because I have to [insert random task].”  Each time it’s the same thing.  And each time I get all upset because that of that “dirty” word – procrastination.

So, what’s the solution?  How do I change that?  I mean I obviously need to have a plan, right?  Wrong.  Sometimes, it’s not about the plan.  Sometimes, I just have to start.  I need to take one step in the right direction.  For instance, instead of saying, “I’ll start writing tomorrow”, I’ll start tonight instead.  And instead of putting off my workout until next week when I have a plan in place, I start today, even if it’s something small like taking a walk.

See, the problem isn’t so much that I put it off – it’s that I never start in the first place.  I allow other things to become more important and neglect the things I really believe are important.  So, today, I woke up with a plan.  Yes, I did say I had a plan.  My plan was that every time I said, “I’ll make a plan, so I can start that tomorrow”, I would figure out a way to start today.  And guess what!  It worked like a charm!  Let me give you a brief rundown of how this worked.

This morning, I woke up later than I had intended, which was actually ok as today was a non-work day.  Instead of saying, “Oh I woke up late, I’ll do my time with God later”, I said, “I will do this now because later might not come.”  So, I started with my time with God, and was blessed as a result.  I wanted to get a workout in, but I was bored with the ones I have been doing, so I thought it would be nice if instead of doing my normal workout, my daughters and I could walk to the store together to return some movies and pick up a couple of things.  When I mentioned it, my oldest suggested going right away.  My first inclination was to put it off.  Instead, we went right away, and it was a beautiful day out, with a warm sun and a cool breeze.

When we got home, I walked into my room, and I was immediately greeted with a mess – because, well, I’m not the neatest person in the world.  However, I have been telling myself I would clean it up soon because the clutter was really frustrating me and stunting my creativity.  So, instead of putting it off until later and messing around with my hobby, I cleaned up my desk area, arranged the “tools” of my “trade”, so to speak, and de-cluttered my work area.  The result is, a clean desk, where all my resource books and “tools” are visible and within reach, and a feeling of accomplishment.

Finally, I was going to put off writing this until tomorrow.  That wasn’t my original intention, but when it came time to write, I told myself, “I have worked hard today.  I’ve done what I was supposed to.  I can do this later.”  But, my conscience pricked me, and I realized, I wouldn’t truly be able to enjoy any down-time if I put this off because I’d feel guilty.  So, here I am, writing this, and actually finding that I am enjoying it immensely.

All this is to say, instead of putting things off until later, my new commitment is to “do it now”.  I’m going to do my best not to make excuses, and to take that step.  Today I took a few steps, and I’m so proud of myself.  If I do the same tomorrow, and the next day, and the next, who knows what wonderful things might happen in my life?  Who knows how many blessings I’ve missed out on because I chose to procrastinate?

Who knows what dreams you might be able to reach if you were to do the same?

Until Next Time,

Busy, busy, busy.  That’s what my life is at the moment.  There are moments when I feel like I don’t even have time to breathe.  I have so much on my plate at this time – or so it would seem.  I am Director of our Single Mom’s Adult Bible Fellowship Class (ABF) at church (ReNew). I am, of course, a Mom.  I have a class that I take on Monday night’s while my children are at something else (works out well).  I work a full-time job.  And, on top of all that, I’m moving in less than 3 weeks.  Like I said, busy, busy, busy.

Now, of course, I’m not always this busy – I usually don’t have to pack.  That’s a given.  However, I often find, that I am packing my schedule up with things – events, “play dates,” sleep-overs, etc.  These things take me from what I really want to do.  I am getting better at this, though.  I don’t add nearly as many things as I did a year ago.  I have learned that it’s good to take a break from the hustle and bustle of “things.”  I still have the events that I go to, but I limit them to what can reasonably be handled.  I still allow things into the schedule, but I have learned to balance those things with quiet times, where my children and I can enjoy the company of each other.

However, I also have a way to go.  There are some things that need to stay in our schedule, but I need to be careful about the other things I allow into my schedule.  Our ABF is doing the Bible study, A Mom After God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George.  One of the things she mentioned was to take stock of the time spent watching TV, and then decide how we can better use that time.

This convicted me, but not about my TV habits.  In that regard, I don’t really have an issue.  But I do have something that takes up time that could be better spent – computer games.  I love computer games.  I am especially enamored of a few games on Facebook.  It’s not that these things are bad, but they have a tendency to take up more time than I intend.  I get lost in the games…and before I know it, my moments with my kids are gone.  It’s not that I do this all the time, but I do it way more than I should.

So, I’ve issued a challenge to myself to spend less time in my games, and more time with my kids.  I want them to see a mom who seeks after the things of God.  I want them to see how much I love and cherish my time with them.  That means, I set aside what I want to make sure they have what they need – time with me.  I’ve also determined that I will spend more time in God’s Word – not just for my benefit, but also for theirs.

How about you?  Is there something that takes up more time than it should?  Is there anything you need to change to seek after the things of God more fully?  Don’t put it off until another day.  That day may never come.  Join me today, and take that next step forward, toward God.

Until Next Time,